How to really enjoy your friends
This week, I learned a lesson about friendship. The lesson really deepened my appreciation for my friends.
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This week's message came from my spiritual advisor and channeler, Solveig. I have a weekly session with my spiritual advisor. I think of her as a big sis. I was referred to her after my husband had passed away. In Los Angeles, when someone you love passes away, as a gift from people you receive “mediumship sessions.” I got THREE of them. It's so Hollywood. She said something profound this week. When you have good friends who are good at something, and you appreciate those qualities it means you are seeing qualities you have within yourself. To enjoy your friendships means being able to fully appreciate them.
Later on in the day, I went on a walk through downtown with the guy I’m currently dating, Robert. He loves details; details details details. He observes everything, especially visually. A loose thread, a picture askew, he notices. In fact, he assisted me in redoing my whole apartment because it sorta looked like a bachelor pad. Anyway, we were walking. We were looking at buildings.
He noted all kinds of details and enjoyed a different way of looking at them. One was attractive because of the windows. Another was great because of the craftsmanship. Then, everything changed when he said, “That one looks like a wedding cake.” It was a tall white glossy building, and it absolutely did kind of look like a wedding cake. I said, “It totally looks like a wedding cake.”
Then I started looking at buildings like they were pastries. I mean, I love carbs and cake so it was effortless. I keep it low carb so anytime I get to think about carbs I am down.
I started looking for pastry items on buildings, and I started seeing them. OMG! This one looks like marble cake! It was brown on either side with white in the middle. Then I saw another building that looked like a piece of chocolate coated with sugar powdered. The brick gave it that look. Pretty soon, I noticed all kinds of windows, doors… It felt like I was walking through a whole new world.
I asked him why he liked details so much. He said, "Because it's layers upon layers of fascinating intricacies.” And he’s right. Look guys, detail has never genuinely been a strong suit for me. I wake up. I throw on a shirt after a sniff test. I walk around and get from A to B. I keep busy. I am a big picture type of person. But sometimes I miss out on the joy of paying attention to detail. I think big picture that I miss the little details! Hanging out with Rob, brought out the part of me that loves details. I can appreciate details. ALSO. Solveig my channeler was right.
Then I started thinking about my other friends that I love. Stephen for his sharp mind and ability to plan and think ahead. Patrick for his kindness and compassionate stance in life. Lisa for her undying optimism, positive vision and can do attitude. Steph for her absolute commitment to do her very best. Kate for her just unabashed unwillingness to bare it all and live in truth. Just to name a few…
Relating that back to what Solveig said about recognizing those qualities in me, I realized that when I get around these guys, these qualities in myself get heightened. Think about your friends!
Stephen encourages me to think ahead and plan plan plan. Patrick constantly encourages me to be more understanding. When I get around Lisa, I get excited! Steph inspires me to work on myself. Kate is that girlfriend with whom you can just LET IT ALLL OUT without judgement.
Contemplating about friends this way, I can see a new way of fully enjoying and appreciating my friends. That channeler was right. I am so grateful I have been given a tool this week to allow me to live life more fully. To enjoy instead of allowing life to pass me by because I'm too busy.
For more on how to be happier, check out my post on the Art Of Being Yourself and Mind Hack For Happiness!
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Aidan Park
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